I remember when I said “I do” to my beloved college boyfriend two weeks after I graduated college in 1969. I was filled with hope – hope for the marriage of my dreams, hope for the children we had always wanted, and hope for a home we could share with our families, friends and pets. I was blessed for almost twenty years to see those hopes realized.
When I realized our marriage might not last, I never lost hope. I hoped we could find a way around our individual differences. Even as we separated, I hoped we could find our way back to each other and keep our family intact.
Ten years into the separation, I still hoped our divorce would be different, better, more loving than much of the previous decade had been. After we got divorced, I hoped time would heal the wounds caused by the process we had endured. Twenty years after that, I am still hoping things will get better.
The Power of Hope. Or denial. Or refusal to accept reality. Or an opportunity to show courage and confidence in the face of rejection and despair.
Maybe hope is the optimistic expectation that the change you desire is still possible so that you can maintain the fortitude to move forward with trust and faith. There is indescribable power in hope.
I see it with all of my clients. Some come to see me, hopeful that they can improve their lives, either alone or within their relationships. Others arrive with their partners, hoping to restore the love that brought them together when they said “I do.” Sometimes the hope is that they can dissolve their marriage without the warfare, bloodshed, and collateral damage to their children that many divorces can cause.
Hope is what gets them to my office. Hope is what I offer. Hope for a resolution to their relationship that was better than my own. But it’s not just hope I share. I share the wisdom of many teachers, mentors, guides and processes.
And that’s what I’d like to share with you. HOPE and WISDOM when divorce is an option.
When the love begins to fade in a relationship –for whatever reason — a sense of gloom begins to build. Some people are aware of the shift and do what they can to work through it – individual counseling, couples counseling, sometimes separating to focus on their own issues for awhile. Or they get a divorce, often too quickly and with too much acrimony and drama.
When you feel “stuck” in a relationship that is no longer meeting your needs or desires. that state of limbo can be painful. In fact, of all of my clients, the ones who are not sure if they want to stay or go seem to suffer the most.
They are locked in a no-win situation, where they can’t take a step closer to their partners – either because their hearts are walled or the filters through which they judge the other are clouded with blame. Or they can’t take a step away because of fear or guilt or worry about their future or their children.
Being at a crossroads without a clear direction gives them a sense of hopelessness which leads to inertia and despair.
Hope and wisdom — with inspired action — is so powerful.
It’s like giving a poor man a fishing pole instead of a fish.
It’s like offering a map to someone lost in the desert.
It’s like a finding a bridge off an island of pain to a better place.
HOPE. (deep breath). HOPE. That’s what I want to share with you now.
If you are – or know someone who is
Considering a separation
Contemplating a divorce
Going through a divorce
Still suffering from a divorce in the past
Let’s offer you or them some HOPE today. Hope and wisdom which can lead to inspired action.
Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation® can heal and transform your relationship when hope and wisdom lead to inspired action steps in the direction of the highest good for all concerned.
Hope can move you from heartache to healing to happiness. One step at a time. I'd love to help you on your path.
I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for being part of my community— opening my emails, sending positive energy and prayers, connecting in real time and online.
What do you have in your life right now for which to be grateful?
Whom can you thank today?
Showing gratitude increase your chances of receiving more of it and can improve all your relationships.
As I continue to help individuals and couples to communicate with more compassion, I realize how much the words “thank you” (and “I’m sorry”) have the power to change lives.
It allows us to focus on the “half fullness” instead of the missing half.
And, of course, what we focus on can increase by virtue of our attention and intention of creating more.
What words of gratitude can you share with someone today – right now?
You can start here – with appreciation for yourself.
Thank you for being the wonderful person that you are.
Thank you for all you do to help others.
Thank you for all you want to share with the world.
Thank you for being willing to grow and learn.
Thank you, for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and express your needs.
Thank you for accepting and forgiving any ways in which you fall short of your own judgments and self criticisms.
Thank you, Linda, for taking care of your body, mind and spirit.
Thank you for the light you bring to all who know you.
Thanks again for EVERYTHING!
Much love and gratitude,
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As the holidays approach, some relationships can become more challenging.
I am passionate about helping individuals, couples and families to communicate with more compassion and empathy.
I have spent the last five years learning how to go online to reach you wherever you are in world.
As my personal thank you, I want to be of service as much as I can.
(All of following are being offered at a special price.)
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I am passionate about helping people add more empathy and compassion to their relationships.
Compassionate Mediation® helps individuals and couples resolve conflict from their highest and best SELF.
If you’d like some individual support, schedule a private 30 minute session with me here.
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If you are having challenges in your relationship – wanting to make it better, feeling stuck, planning to separate, in the middle of or past a divorce — get guidance and support in my online video Compassionate Mediation® Program.
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As a therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra Certified Master Teacher of Meditation, Yoga and Ayurveda, I help individuals and couples learn Compassionate Communication for more peace, love and joy.
Linda Kroll, LCPC, JD, Vedic Master • Founder, Compassionate Communication, Inc. 400 Lake Cook Road, Suite 217, Deerfield, Illinois 60015 United States
It’s been 30 years since I first separated from my beloved ex-husband, and since that time, it has become my mission to make help individuals and couples to resolve conflict in the highest good for all concerned.
A marriage doesn’t have to end in broken hearts, families and fortunes.
And often, with the right information and counseling, you can create a new marriage with your partner now.
Two people who once promised to love each other forever can find it in their hurting hearts to learn how to restructure their families without the shrapnel that animosity leaves behind.
The holidays are especially difficult when there is conflict in your relationship.
You have to pretend everything is okay, but secretly you’re conflicted and confused. Many people hold on through the holidays only to decide to end their relationships as soon as the festivities end.
January is often called “Divorce Month,” but it doesn’t have to be.
Three years ago, I published my book, Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
As a therapist, mediator, and attorney, I have spent 30 years counseling thousands of individuals and couples who are:
Unhappy but hopeful things will improve,
Unhappy but “stuck”
Separated
Divorcing
Or Divorced
This year I finished the online course, which is six hours of videos of everything I offer to my clients in person, plus six months of live monthly calls with me.
It is my goal to reach as many people as possible with the hope that this information can help to change the face of divorce — one heart at a time.
For a limited time, I am lowering the cost of the course to make it affordable to anyone who could use this information.
So if you, or someone you know, is suffering this holiday season (or any time), please get the information and support you need to create the relationship you desire and deserve – no matter what form it takes.
I believe families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re=structured.”
So whether you want to add more passion and partnership, or think you want to part ways with as much kindness and compassion as possible, this course is for you.
Or you can get it to give to someone you care about so they can benefit from the education and empowerment they will receive.
If you have any questions, please join me on my next Live Q&A which will be coming soon.
Let me help you end this year and begin 2019 with a sense of hope and healing, so the coming year will be filled with more peace, love and joy.
Dearest Friend, I hope all is well with you and yours. Last year my Love Notes were focused on the Power of Hope and the Power of Surrender. This month I'm exploring the Power of Faith, which I think is a combination of both – hope and surrender....
If you are a Therapist, Mediator, Attorney, Coach, or Counselor who wants to help heal and transform relationships, please join me.
Compassionate Mediation®
combines emotional and spiritual healing along with with legal and financial information and support.
Together we can transform the face of divorce — one heart at a time.
Compassionate Mediation® Training:
Introducing Compassionate Mediation®
Compassionate Mediation® fosters peaceful and respectful dialogue when there is conflict. It provides a safe forum for healing and personal growth — as well as financial and legal information and guidance. Individuals and couples can then create a new and better future — together or apart.
Peaceful Conflict Resolution
You’ll teach your clients a method of compassionate communication that allows for healing and mutual respect. With awareness, understanding, and willingness to listen, each party feels heard, understood, and more connected. You also learn techniques to offer that encourage exquisite SELF care.
Powerful and Healing Initial Interview
Using a unique template, you'll learn a new technique for an initial interview that helps you understand each individual and the dynamics of the relationship. You will facilitate constructive dialogue that fosters transformation. In a matter of minutes you can help your clients communicate with more respect.
Positive Relationship Transformation
This process of SELF-led empathetic communication helps heal a family for the highest good of all concerned. You educate your clients as they explore their options, collect necessary information, and learn their rights and responsibilities. You will feel confident in your ability to be of service.
Heal More Relationships
You will learn how to support your clients as they decide whether to continue with Compassionate Mediation®, agree to co-create a more Compassionate Relationship, or elect to pursue a Compassionate SELF-Led Divorce®.
Expand Your Expertise
You can be part of an evolutionary process that will inspire your clients to heal and transform their relationships from their highest and best SELF. They will explore their options, get clear on their rights and finances, and take inspired action for their future.
Earn More CEU's*
Compassionate Mediation® Training is an NBCC-Approved Continuing Education Course for therapists who will receive NBCC-approved clock hours.*Coaches and Attorneys, Continuing Education Credits will be available in the near future.
Learn Linda's Process
Linda is a therapist, mediator, attorney, author, and Chopra Certified Master Teacher of meditation, yoga and Ayurveda, Linda founded of Compassionate Communication Academy to share all that she has learned with you for your expansion and success.
With gratitude to Richard Schwartz, PhD, Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) — Selfleadership.org
“Divorce brings out the worst in us and often leaves lasting scars…
Linda Kroll is a master at lifting couples out of their narrow protective perspectives. They then learn the larger lessons from their relationships and proceed based on the best interests of all involved… This is relationship healing at its best.”
Client Success Stories:
“I've experienced significant improvements in all my relationships.” “I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce.” “We’re building an entirely new marriage.” “Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce.” “I came to Linda seeking mediation and came out with peace and hope.” “I am breaking free from destructive patterns.” “Linda helped me love all ‘Parts’ of my SELF!” “With Linda’s caring guidance, I moved forward with peace and strength.”
“We’re building an entirely new marriage.” “I resisted leaving for years with two young kids and limited finances, the idea of leaving felt almost as bad as staying. By the end of our first session, we were able to strip away some of the old resentments and junk to have a glimpse of the person we fell in love with all those years ago. After a few short months, we are no longer thinking of ending our marriage. Linda is helping us build an entirely new marriage. She is a Godsend and is helping me to love myself, love my husband, and love my life. What a treasure.”
“I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce.”“I imagine that working with me and my spouse was quite challenging as we both brought a lot with us while dealing with intense life issues. Once the difficult decisions were further along, there was space to let concepts into my mind and heart of empathy and compassion. Linda always seemed to maintain an ability to stay above the fray, and she taught me how to come from my Highest Self. I feel that I understood the meaning of Highest Self immediately, yet before being introduced to that concept by Linda, I don’t think I operated from that place often enough. I am now am working toward living my best life, from my Highest Self, looking for good things for myself, my newly structured family, and for the greater good in my business and personal life. My former wife and my daughter and I have all traveled together with friendship and harmony.”
“I am breaking free from destructive patterns.” “In just one session with Linda, I gained insight into a stumbling block in my relationship that I thought was impassable. Her clarity and intelligence cut through my defenses allowing me to see the ways in which I was sabotaging myself. She is a serious and effective therapist who gave me the courage to face my painful past and the tools to break free from destructive patterns. I am very grateful for her presence in my life and awed by her extraordinary skill.”
“With Linda’s caring guidance, I moved forward with peace and strength.” “When I was first referred to Linda, I felt sad, scared, alone and extremely confused. With Linda’s caring guidance, I learned ways to cope with what was happening with my life and how to move forward with peace and strength. She showed me options I didn’t know existed. This helped me feel more in control of my actions and decisions and allowed me to be a strong role model for my children. Life is so much better. I now face each day with excitement, strength, and peace.”
