EP10: Feeling like a Jealous Jane? Try this‪.‬ Fearlessly Fertile Podcast

With baby bumps and pregnancy announcements lurking everywhere and the relentless minefield of social media, what do smart AF women do when the Green Eyed Monster makes her appearance? Learn how to silence your inner Jealous Jane with a quickness!



Transcript:

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.



I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 10.



Feeling like a jealous Jane? Try this. With baby bumps and pregnancy announcements lurking everywhere and the relentless minefield of social media absolutely bombarding us, what does Smart as F**k Women do when the green eyed monster makes her appearance? We're going to talk about that and how to silence your inner jealous Jane with a quickness.



Let's start by straight up admitting that jealousy exists on this journey. It sucks. It's not ideal. Unchecked it will eat us alive. It's completely misguided and deep down it makes us feel ashamed. Pretty gross cocktail right there. But, it's real. It seems like everywhere we turn on this journey, there's an opportunity to take our conflictingly complex feelings of jealousy, resentment, and shame to the next level.



I remember seeing a pregnant woman at the grocery store during a particularly deep, dark, low point on my own fertility journey. I distinctly remember admiring how beautiful she was, then quietly earning a gold medal at my own mental hate olympics. I'm not ashamed to admit I was a hating ass bitch back then.



I fully own that part of my own personal growth. I tortured myself as I watched her, meticulously scouring her for some patent or latent clue for why she was so much better than me. I would drive myself totally batty, asking ridiculous, time wasting questions like, Why was she lucky and I wasn't? Yikes, oh gosh, even remembering how that felt, like, ugh, even asking that question, today it feels so revolting and victim y.



But that's where I was, and the truth is, whatever momentary relief I had in hating on that woman was fleeting at best. It left me feeling more empty and alone than I ever had. I felt so gross holding negative energy about this unsuspecting, probably amazingly awesome woman. But again, that's where I was, jealous and self loathing.



Being caught in that jealous place was exhausting because it required some mental acrobatics on my part to parse out my resentment from my genuine happiness for this precious woman. So more often than not, I would just keep spinning in jealousy than feeling bad about being jealous. Can you feel me on this one?



Noticing this about myself represented a significant turning point on my own journey. And what's really interesting about jealousy on this journey is that as professional, accomplished, educated women, we wouldn't readily characterize or categorize ourselves as jealous. We kind of overlook the possibility because shit in every other aspect of our lives is going pretty well.



We typically have all the physical and material trappings of success. So we don't even consider the possibility that we might, eek, be a jealous jane. This is what makes creeping jealousy so insidious. It can go unrecognized, or even worse,