EP9: Agonizing over age? Here’s a smarter approach‪.‬ Fearlessly Fertile Podcast

Whether you are North, or just slightly South of 40, the insane pressure to cross the baby-making finish line in the face of being labeled "geriatric," or of "Advanced Maternal Age" is real. Feel like a spring chicken with this smarter approach to the fertility age game.



Transcript:

Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.



I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell Yes.



For your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode nine. Agonizing Over Age. Here's a Smarter Approach. Whether you are North or just slightly South of 40, the insane pressure to cross the baby making finish line in the face of being labeled geriatric or of advanced maternal age is real.



I felt it. I know you feel it. And for some reason, society in general has bought into the idea that becoming a mom in your 40s is an unquestionably uphill battle and you are quote unquote lucky if it happens. When people hear about your plans to have a baby in your 40s, they kind of recoil and have that sort of good luck with that look on their faces.



I remember being told I needed donor eggs at the ripe old age of 37 for no other reason but being 37. All of this is total f*****g b******t. The real truth is that women having babies at 40 or better is fucking normal. It's not a freak show sideshow. In fact, women having babies in their 40s is more and more common.



with the assistance of treatment, or conceiving naturally. Sisters are doing it in their 40s on the regular, but that's not getting a ton of play out there in the world. In fact, in 2017, the U. S. CDC reported that the birth rate in the United States had fallen for all age groups EXCEPT women over 40.



Births for women 40 to 44 were on the rise, and for those over 45, that shit was actually holding steady. This, my darling, is why you've got to take a smarter approach than just listening to conventional wisdom. Far too often, conventional wisdom is narrow minded, unimaginative, based in fear, and beholden to the tyranny of precedent.



You've got to be smarter than that. You've got to curate your own set of beliefs about time and your age. That doesn't mean you have to live in a place of idiotic Pollyanna denial. To say that a 20 year old and a 45 year old are situated in the exact same place on the fertility spectrum would be ridiculous.



That is not what I'm talking about. We as intelligent individuals have the power to decide what the facts that present themselves in our lives actually mean. We decide. Will age be a nail in the coffin to your dreams of being a mom, or an avenue for delightful resourcefulness? You, precious one, will be the most qualified arbiter of any such fact.



This is the perfect time to point out the real real when it comes to statistics. Because when you are at, near, or over 40, you are probably getting hammered on all sides with them. And just as a side note, there's a part of me that suspects some experts use statistics as excuses for their lack of resourcefulness and creativity.



Maybe that's something you might want to think about. Here's a smarter approach to statistics. Statistics are just information. That's all they are, love. They are simply information.